To the editor:
?Give time, time? means go at your own pace; let yourself learn at your own pace. For people in recovery, the opposite of this would be ?I want recovery and I want it now.? It just doesn?t work that way as we all eventually find out. We all recover at our own pace - usually with a lot of one step forward two steps back at first.
Recovery takes time, gaining new habits takes time. Change in general takes time and patience. The good news is that change that comes slowly is more likely to hold - and we all want to make changes that are lasting and possibly even permanent.
How to grow and change seems axiomatic, even obvious: a strong unyielding commitment, a willingness to go to any lengths, a courage to face fear, loss and heartache, a strong abiding faith in a higher power. All these principles are indispensable to recovery of any kind.
And yes they are relatively simple-but almost no one would tell you they are easy - and there are a lot of pitfalls along the way. One of the biggest is to want recovery so badly that you are in too big of a hurry to get it.
You over do it, become too fanatical, and lose your balance. And losing your balance, getting tired and discouraged, can mean a slip of some kind is becoming increasingly more likely.
There are good ways to avoid these pitfalls. Some again appear to be obvious, but you would be surprised how many people in recovery either forget to use them or put it off until it is too late.
The most important is to find a sponsor as soon as you can. I would say right away but then that would suggest doing things in a hurry. Just what i said should be avoided. It can take time to find the right sponsor.
They say, ?Look for someone that has what you want; which is usually a combination of serenity and sobriety. But you also need to be compatible on many levels: liking and respecting one another is essential. The other ways to avoid pitfalls can be easily learned as you continue to attend Recovery meetings regularly.
Giving time, time is a good prescription for life in general - our Western Civilization encourages hard work, efficiency, and a competitive approach to productivity - who can do the most work? The fastest? Earn the most money? Get the promotion? Live in a better house? Neighborhood? and on and on.
We all benefit when we slow down - make changes at our own pace - and live a full and balanced life. When we listen to our still, small voice, not the one that is shouting at us to do more, be more, and do better. And also remembering how important it is to have a sense of humor helps a lot, too.